Most of us adults know we need to pause before reacting. We've all heard it. We've all nodded at it. Pause before you respond. Count to ten. Take a breath. None of this is new information. And yet, in the moments that actually matter, when your kid pushes the button, when your partner says the thing, when the email hits at 4:47pm on a Friday, the pause we know about in theory has officially skipped town on the first flight out. In its place is the raging, dysregulated, fire-b

"I spent twenty years in corporate environments sitting through leadership development workshops about emotional intelligence and resilience. Nobody ever told me what those things were actually built from. I had to find that out in a paediatrician's office at forty-two years old." When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, his paediatrician said something I wasn't expecting. She told me this had less to do with fixing him and more to do with educating me as his parent. She handed m